Are you getting in the way of your success?

Are you getting in the way of your success?

I posted a video recently from a very busy Times Square in New York. On It I asked a question ‘what did you say you were going to do this year, that you haven’t started yet’

One of the many responses I received was ‘life just got in the way’ and I hear this a lot. This is your reason that something doesn’t get done or maybe even started. You blame it on life.

But you know that it’s not true?

Girl-thinkingLife isn’t running anything, and it doesn’t set up obstacles for you. Life doesn’t have any power over you. You have all the power and you control your life.

You decided to prioritise working late in the job you said you hated and wanted to change this year, and yet you’re still there? Hating it, stressed out, unfulfilled.

You also prioritised sitting on the couch watching TV, instead of taking up some exercise in that fitness goal you set?

You prioritised eating unhealthy food, rather than putting that diet plan into action, where you’d eat more healthy.

So you see life didn’t do anything that you didn’t want it to do. You made the choice.

I know because I have been where you are. I let life get in the way when I was made redundant and just sat around. I wanted to run my own business because I didn’t want to return to working hard for someone else. I had lots of ideas, but I didn’t do anything. I had so much fear. What if I failed and had to return to employment? What would people think?

When I realised that 6 months had passed and I hadn’t started anything and wasn’t even looking for a job, right then and there I made the decision to get some help.

LeapI knew my current situation and where I wanted to be, and if I wanted to achieve that, I would need to do something about it. Lying on the couch dreaming about my future wasn’t working!


I now have my own coaching and consultancy business and work with a broad range of clients. I don’t work hard and I enjoy my life. Hiring a coach was the best investment.

If you set a goal or had a dream about where you wanted this year to take you and you’re still lying on the couch dreaming about it, you can do something about it.

If you want to transform your life, contact me to schedule a call.

During this powerful session you will:-

  • Gain clarity on the fastest route to achieving your success
  • Understand what stops you
  • Discover how you can create the success you deserve

If you don’t want to end the year in exactly the same way you started it, contact me today.

About Beverley Bramwell
Beverley BramwellBeverley Bramwell is a success coach and the founder of #EmbraceYourAmbition, a global initiative for women to confidently embrace their ambition and create the success they deserve.

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You don’t Have to be Superwoman; Have the Courage to Be Vulnerable

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Brene Brown says vulnerability is the pathway to connection. Yet so many of us women are afraid to show our vulnerability, especially at work, because we believe we will appear to be weak.

The advent of feminism and women’s increased empowerment has left many of us believing that simply being a woman, is not enough to succeed. If we want to get on, we have to be more like a man. Yet, it is our femininity that sets us apart and we should embrace it. When did being a woman become a symbol for weakness?

Because we don’t want to appear to be weak, we don’t ask for help or seek support and believe we must work all the hours at work, come home and be the wife, mother and partner, and if we aren’t in any of those groups; play hard, work out at the gym excessively. We have become superwoman and can do everything! It is exhausting!


The reality is that we may believe that this is the path to success, it is more likely to end in burnout. Then what?

The solution lies in our vulnerability, our ability to admit we are not men, and we cannot do it all and be everything to everyone.

Before you rush off thinking I’m suggesting that you start crying at work, read on. We don’t have to do everything on our own. We can ask for help, buy in support; do whatever it takes to make our lives easier as we strive for success at work or in our business.

For example at work, delegate. I can’t say it more plainly. You have to empower your staff or team to do the work, so delegate work to them. You may believe they won’t do it as well as you, but you won’t know until you find out. Provide support and opportunities for them to check in with you, at key stages, but lets discover what they re capable of.

If you are a solo worker, what are you doing that could be passed to someone else? Could you buy in or recruit someone to do that work on a part-time or freelance basis? What do you need to stop doing? Are you a perfectionist and that’s why you work such long hours to get ‘it’ right?

Do you want promotion at work or to review your career direction? Hire a coach. You probably need a mentor too. It is an admission that you need support to achieve this, not the end of the world.

At home, enlist the support of your partner and children in the home. Failing that hire a cleaner, someone to do the ironing. I am in awe of one of my friends who has a cook. She runs a successful business and this helps her out. The cook prepares 5 meals each week from ingredients my friend has delivered from the supermarket, which are put in the fridge. So when she gets home, she takes out a meal for the family and heats it up. No Indian takeaway for her, or stressing about what to cook.

Men are also discovering that being strong and tough are not the only traits they need for success, and are taking softer skills like empathy and listening.

We want ambitious, confident women leading our organisations and running businesses, and getting involved in politics, not boasting how they thrive on 4 hours sleep a night.

If you want to receive more updates like this and listen to my upcoming podcasts HerCareerConfidence which launches in November, sign up here for more information. 

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You Are In Charge Of Your Future

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You are in charge of your future? Whatever decisions you make now, will create your future. If you believe your thoughts about who you are, and who you can be, then you can create your future.

 Here are some examples:

  1. Some women believe that to achieve anything, it must be difficult, so why would you do it? What’s the point?
  2. Some women believe that they are worth it and are willing to take a risk and find out if they can create something different in their lives and careers.
  3. Some women are successful because they don’t wait to be chosen; they decide to create their own future.
  4. Some women are waiting on the sidelines for something to happen. And they wait.
  5. Some women are willing to expand their comfort zone, to enable them to take those big steps.
  6. Some women are afraid to step out of their comfort zone, because they fear the unknown.
  7. Some women seize opportunities because they make decisions and work out the details later.
  8. Some women wait until they have all the information and analyse the situation, and miss opportunities.
  9. Some women will have read this to the end and will be thinking what changes they could make now.
  10. Some women gave up reading this half way through.

If you got this far, then you’re probably one of the women who want to be, do and have more.

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity was ‘doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results’ If you want to stop doing what you’ve been doing and create a different outcome, then coming to #HerInvitation workshops may the solution for you.

At ‪#‎HerInvitation workshops you will discover how you can have a different outcome to the one you’re currently creating, increase your confidence and discover how to expand your comfort zone. One participant said ‘this workshop changed my life’.

If YOU are in charge of YOUR future and want to make some changes now, you need to attend this workshop ‘How to Increase Your Power & Influence 1’

Details and to book

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Giving Your Power Away At Work

Here are 3 ways you give your power away at work.

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Just because you’re the woman at the meeting, do you offer or are expected to take the notes or minutes of the meeting, are you also a senior member of staff?

Are you expected to or do you offer to organise the refreshments, distribution of papers? Is it your job?

Do you outwardly smile, but inwardly seethe with resentment when these things happen to you?

Do you sometimes lose your temper or raise your voice because of how you feel you’re treated? Do your male and female colleagues sometimes describe you as ‘difficult’?

These are all examples of how you give your power away, and in most instances you are discovering that you didn’t realise you had the power in the first place!There is nothing wrong because you didn’t know.

Come along to ‘Increase Your Power & Influence 2’ on 22 April in London, and discover how you can reclaim your power and use it more productively. Book here

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6 ways to increase your comfort zone


A comfort zone is a place of safety, and as the word suggests, a place of comfort. We all hang out there from time to time. However, what you need to realise is that nothing grows in a comfort zone. That means you are not growing there. The longer you stay there, the harder it is to leave. But if you want to do more or be more, then you have to increase or step out of your comfort zone. You can’t see it, but you can feel when you are at the edge of it. There is a physical reaction in your body as you prepare to increase your comfort  zone. That feeling can be fear, or your version of that. It can also be anticipation and excitement. So stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t have to be scary.

If you’re one of those people who does the same thing, daily, weekly, annually, this list is for you.

Here are 6 ways that you can increase your comfort zone, and the result is that you will create a new comfort zone, and then you do something else, you will increase it again!

  1. Say YES to new opportunities and new experiences. Sometimes you know that you want to do something different, but something holds you back? That is you hanging onto your comfort zone. Say yes and see what happens.
  2. Go to the cinema or theatre on your own. Pick a show and book a ticket, release whatever fears you may have about sitting in the dark on your own for a couple of hours, and enjoy the experience.
  3. Do something different at work. If you never speak in a meeting, find something to say. If you tend to hide out at the back in a workshop, sit at the front. If someone asks for a volunteer, put yourself forward. All the thoughts you’re having right now about this suggestion are just your fears, most of which are not true. See yourself doing this new action and then go with it.
  4. Go to a different holiday destination. Get on a plane if you don’t normally.  Explore a different part of the country or the city on a bus or on foot. Go on your own. Maybe leave your life behind for a day or weekend, and go to a retreat or a spa.
  5. Make a request. If you are not used to getting your needs met because you don’t ask for something. Try making small requests of friends and family. Are there things you tolerate because you don’t want to make a fuss? Could you ask someone to stop or start doing something? Could you ask for a new job or more responsibility?
  6. Change your appearance. If you’ve had the same hairstyle/spectacles/makeup/level of fitness/fashion sense for a few years. It’s time to update it.

Finally, take risks. Not life threatening types of risks, just the ones that you know, if you do them, will have an impact on your life. It doesn’t matter where you begin or what you decide to do, there is no going back once you start. You can’t shrink your comfort zone so easily, but you can increase it way beyond your wildest dreams and then some.

Now is the time, it is your time. Go. Be. Do.

If you would like to find out how you can increase your comfort zone and your power and influence. Join women in London at Increase Your Power & Influence workshops. More details are here.

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She believed she she did

she believed she could so she did_0‘She believed she she did’ This is my theme for the year.

It is a variation on the ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ but I know sometimes women feel the fear and run away, because they are overwhelmed by the feeling. It is too much. What is the fear? Fear of success or failure? Fear of getting it wrong or maybe getting it right? Fear of what people might think? The list is endless, and you can put a name to the fear.

However, I know I can embrace my fear, once I get out of my own way. Then the next step is to BELIEVE! So if I believe that I could do something, it feels easier and less stressful somehow and then I act.

So I ask myself the question ‘do you believe you could do this?’. I don’t start thinking about how I’ll do it or what it will mean. If it is a yes or a no, I know what to do next. Sometimes I pause so I am calm and then ask the question. It has been liberating.

I can’t tell you why you might want to try it, I just know that when you do this, it works!

One of the results of my ‘She believed she could’ exercises was deciding to become a workshop facilitator for Her Invitation. Her Invitation was created by Lynette Allen. ‘We remind women just how powerful and influential we really are, positively influencing their careers, families, sons and daughters. It’s who we are, not what we do.’

There are 2 workshops ‘Power & Influence’ run in two parts. For more information and to book a place visit

Tell me in the box below what you believe you could do… and you’re going to do it.


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Happy new year because it’s what you want!

London NYE 2015Happy new year, but is it just the previous year with a different number attached to it? There is nothing new about it.

We went back to work a week ago and hopefully you got to the end of week without too much struggle? Whose idea is it to take two weeks off to spend at home, with family and friends?

Once the eating, drinking and online shopping is over and you’re lying on the sofa on New Year’s Day, thoughts turn to resolutions.

Lose weight, stop smoking, get a life, become a better you. All reasonable things to resolve to do, but the reality is something else.

Eleven days, on how is that resolution going? Or has it gone? You fell off the wagon, the wagon you had only just resolved to get on!

Well here’s your get out of jail card. It’s not your fault. Well not entirely.

We make resolutions because we think we SHOULD. You know the internal banter. I should cut down. I should stop doing this. There is a lot of SHOULDING-(this isn’t a real word).

Giving up smoking or losing weight, or whatever your resolution is? Do it because you WANT to.

So first thing, DECIDE what you WANT, then identify WHY you WANT to stop doing to start doing something in the new year. WHY do you want to quit cigarettes, WHY do you want to lose 3 stone? Once you identify that, you will have the start of your motivation to keep going. Assuming of course, you aren’t kidding yourself you want something.

A woman I know WANTED to quit smoking because she wanted to be around to see her children marry. So whenever she was tempted to reach for a cigarette, that picture of her daughter getting married and her missing it, ensured she put it down. She did the patches etc to wean her off the cravings, but that picture is what made her a former smoker.

So what is your WHY for your resolution. Be honest with yourself about what you WANT and WHY you want to do it, and see how you get on.

Comment in the box below and tell me about your progress.

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