You Are In Charge Of Your Future

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You are in charge of your future? Whatever decisions you make now, will create your future. If you believe your thoughts about who you are, and who you can be, then you can create your future.

 Here are some examples:

  1. Some women believe that to achieve anything, it must be difficult, so why would you do it? What’s the point?
  2. Some women believe that they are worth it and are willing to take a risk and find out if they can create something different in their lives and careers.
  3. Some women are successful because they don’t wait to be chosen; they decide to create their own future.
  4. Some women are waiting on the sidelines for something to happen. And they wait.
  5. Some women are willing to expand their comfort zone, to enable them to take those big steps.
  6. Some women are afraid to step out of their comfort zone, because they fear the unknown.
  7. Some women seize opportunities because they make decisions and work out the details later.
  8. Some women wait until they have all the information and analyse the situation, and miss opportunities.
  9. Some women will have read this to the end and will be thinking what changes they could make now.
  10. Some women gave up reading this half way through.

If you got this far, then you’re probably one of the women who want to be, do and have more.

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity was ‘doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results’ If you want to stop doing what you’ve been doing and create a different outcome, then coming to #HerInvitation workshops may the solution for you.

At ‪#‎HerInvitation workshops you will discover how you can have a different outcome to the one you’re currently creating, increase your confidence and discover how to expand your comfort zone. One participant said ‘this workshop changed my life’.

If YOU are in charge of YOUR future and want to make some changes now, you need to attend this workshop ‘How to Increase Your Power & Influence 1’

Details and to book

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Giving Your Power Away At Work

Here are 3 ways you give your power away at work.

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Just because you’re the woman at the meeting, do you offer or are expected to take the notes or minutes of the meeting, are you also a senior member of staff?

Are you expected to or do you offer to organise the refreshments, distribution of papers? Is it your job?

Do you outwardly smile, but inwardly seethe with resentment when these things happen to you?

Do you sometimes lose your temper or raise your voice because of how you feel you’re treated? Do your male and female colleagues sometimes describe you as ‘difficult’?

These are all examples of how you give your power away, and in most instances you are discovering that you didn’t realise you had the power in the first place!There is nothing wrong because you didn’t know.

Come along to ‘Increase Your Power & Influence 2’ on 22 April in London, and discover how you can reclaim your power and use it more productively. Book here

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6 ways to increase your comfort zone


A comfort zone is a place of safety, and as the word suggests, a place of comfort. We all hang out there from time to time. However, what you need to realise is that nothing grows in a comfort zone. That means you are not growing there. The longer you stay there, the harder it is to leave. But if you want to do more or be more, then you have to increase or step out of your comfort zone. You can’t see it, but you can feel when you are at the edge of it. There is a physical reaction in your body as you prepare to increase your comfort  zone. That feeling can be fear, or your version of that. It can also be anticipation and excitement. So stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t have to be scary.

If you’re one of those people who does the same thing, daily, weekly, annually, this list is for you.

Here are 6 ways that you can increase your comfort zone, and the result is that you will create a new comfort zone, and then you do something else, you will increase it again!

  1. Say YES to new opportunities and new experiences. Sometimes you know that you want to do something different, but something holds you back? That is you hanging onto your comfort zone. Say yes and see what happens.
  2. Go to the cinema or theatre on your own. Pick a show and book a ticket, release whatever fears you may have about sitting in the dark on your own for a couple of hours, and enjoy the experience.
  3. Do something different at work. If you never speak in a meeting, find something to say. If you tend to hide out at the back in a workshop, sit at the front. If someone asks for a volunteer, put yourself forward. All the thoughts you’re having right now about this suggestion are just your fears, most of which are not true. See yourself doing this new action and then go with it.
  4. Go to a different holiday destination. Get on a plane if you don’t normally.  Explore a different part of the country or the city on a bus or on foot. Go on your own. Maybe leave your life behind for a day or weekend, and go to a retreat or a spa.
  5. Make a request. If you are not used to getting your needs met because you don’t ask for something. Try making small requests of friends and family. Are there things you tolerate because you don’t want to make a fuss? Could you ask someone to stop or start doing something? Could you ask for a new job or more responsibility?
  6. Change your appearance. If you’ve had the same hairstyle/spectacles/makeup/level of fitness/fashion sense for a few years. It’s time to update it.

Finally, take risks. Not life threatening types of risks, just the ones that you know, if you do them, will have an impact on your life. It doesn’t matter where you begin or what you decide to do, there is no going back once you start. You can’t shrink your comfort zone so easily, but you can increase it way beyond your wildest dreams and then some.

Now is the time, it is your time. Go. Be. Do.

If you would like to find out how you can increase your comfort zone and your power and influence. Join women in London at Increase Your Power & Influence workshops. More details are here.

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She believed she she did

she believed she could so she did_0‘She believed she she did’ This is my theme for the year.

It is a variation on the ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ but I know sometimes women feel the fear and run away, because they are overwhelmed by the feeling. It is too much. What is the fear? Fear of success or failure? Fear of getting it wrong or maybe getting it right? Fear of what people might think? The list is endless, and you can put a name to the fear.

However, I know I can embrace my fear, once I get out of my own way. Then the next step is to BELIEVE! So if I believe that I could do something, it feels easier and less stressful somehow and then I act.

So I ask myself the question ‘do you believe you could do this?’. I don’t start thinking about how I’ll do it or what it will mean. If it is a yes or a no, I know what to do next. Sometimes I pause so I am calm and then ask the question. It has been liberating.

I can’t tell you why you might want to try it, I just know that when you do this, it works!

One of the results of my ‘She believed she could’ exercises was deciding to become a workshop facilitator for Her Invitation. Her Invitation was created by Lynette Allen. ‘We remind women just how powerful and influential we really are, positively influencing their careers, families, sons and daughters. It’s who we are, not what we do.’

There are 2 workshops ‘Power & Influence’ run in two parts. For more information and to book a place visit

Tell me in the box below what you believe you could do… and you’re going to do it.


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Happy new year because it’s what you want!

London NYE 2015Happy new year, but is it just the previous year with a different number attached to it? There is nothing new about it.

We went back to work a week ago and hopefully you got to the end of week without too much struggle? Whose idea is it to take two weeks off to spend at home, with family and friends?

Once the eating, drinking and online shopping is over and you’re lying on the sofa on New Year’s Day, thoughts turn to resolutions.

Lose weight, stop smoking, get a life, become a better you. All reasonable things to resolve to do, but the reality is something else.

Eleven days, on how is that resolution going? Or has it gone? You fell off the wagon, the wagon you had only just resolved to get on!

Well here’s your get out of jail card. It’s not your fault. Well not entirely.

We make resolutions because we think we SHOULD. You know the internal banter. I should cut down. I should stop doing this. There is a lot of SHOULDING-(this isn’t a real word).

Giving up smoking or losing weight, or whatever your resolution is? Do it because you WANT to.

So first thing, DECIDE what you WANT, then identify WHY you WANT to stop doing to start doing something in the new year. WHY do you want to quit cigarettes, WHY do you want to lose 3 stone? Once you identify that, you will have the start of your motivation to keep going. Assuming of course, you aren’t kidding yourself you want something.

A woman I know WANTED to quit smoking because she wanted to be around to see her children marry. So whenever she was tempted to reach for a cigarette, that picture of her daughter getting married and her missing it, ensured she put it down. She did the patches etc to wean her off the cravings, but that picture is what made her a former smoker.

So what is your WHY for your resolution. Be honest with yourself about what you WANT and WHY you want to do it, and see how you get on.

Comment in the box below and tell me about your progress.

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Returning to work after a career break

I’ve been writing about women who have pressed PAUSE on their careers and are now ready to restart it. I’m not talking lack of confidence, I’m talking about getting caught up at work, but not making plans for the future. All of a sudden, you’ve run out challenges and the job feels stale.

Mother & BabyHowever, you’re not that woman. You took maternity leave or an extended career break to stay at home with your children. It’s been a year or 18 months, maybe longer and you’re ready to return to work.

The job is still open and Human Resources and your manager have been fab, but you’re not sure about you. You used to be confident and highly self-motivated and whilst you haven’t completely lost your edge, you know it may take some time to get back into the swing of things.

First of all have lunch with a trusted colleague to find out what has changed at work, if you haven’t kept in touch with work. Technology, processes and staff movement.

Identify what do you want to be, do and have at work? Have you changed, are your priorities the same? What are your expectations?

Next take a big dose of kindness and give it to your self regularly. Don’t start being hard on yourself or setting the bar so high, you set yourself up to fail.

Finally, get some support. A coach or mentor is a good place to start.

I work with women who have pressed PAUSE or are returning to work after a career break and are ready to restart their career.

If you want to find out more. Contact me to book a free coaching call.


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It’s time to go for the next promotion? Don’t wait-do it now!

If you read the newspapers at all, you may have noticed that companies are embracing diversity and appointing women into senior roles. Currently, there are 4 females CEOs at FTSE companies and it was reported in July that PwC had promoted a record number of new partners. Numbers show that 40% of new partners are women and 20% are from a culturally diverse background.

What’s the point here?

Companies are recognising that having women in senior positions is advantageous to business. Mervyn Davies, former Trade Minister, and leader of a government initiative since 2011, said that Britain was leading the way at driving corporate change on a voluntary basis, rather than through quotas, which has been discussed.

Woman with crowdYou’re a woman manager, director, leader in your organisation and you have achieved some career success, but you have paused or stopped. You’re confident and you have the right skills. You’ve just returned from the summer holiday or staycation and you’ve been thinking about THAT promotion again, and you’re wondering, should I, could I?

The time is now, don’t wait for the RIGHT conditions and occasion, do it NOW. There has never been a better time. If ALL the confident, talented women decided to take ACTION and go for that JOB, what an impact that would have and a difference it would make. However, as long as we continue to be patient and wait for the right time and conditions, then change takes place slowly. It’s time to step up and go for that job.

You’re AMBITIOUS, but you don’t admit that to everyone, and you know Single black womanyou’re ready. Join WOMEN INDUSTRY EXPERTS at the #EmbraceYourAmbition tele summit as they share strategies and insider information on creating career SUCCESS. The time is now to #embraceyourambition. Sheryl Sandberg says ‘until women are as ambitious as men, they will never be as successful’. This is your call to action. Don’t wait-do it now!


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